LRT - Checking Progress

[LostIn407]

Some more background:
We moved from the west to FL at the end of December in 2010. I was supposed to have a job lined up in FL that would be starting "soon". I returned to my job out west because it was really good money. The plan was to save as much as we could to prepare for a life of making less. During this time, my W and Ds lived with her father and grandmother.

My W hated this living arrangement. My job that was supposed to start "soon", started to drag on. I had planned to be living with my family in FL in February 2011. My wife had enough of living with her father and grandmother and rented a house for us. Not ideal as I wanted to save as much money as possible. The job offer finally came in April but was not what was originally offered. It was also far from the house my wife rented. I turned the job down and started to look for a new job.

I took the first job offered and finally moved to FL to be with my family in June 2011. The job I took was horrible. Horrible hours. Horrible pay. We blew through our savings adjusted to lower income.

My wife began working in October 2011. I took a new job in November 2011. This job I hated after one day, but stuck with it because of slightly more pay. It was more hours and more time away. I had to be at work at 6:30am at a job over an hour away so I was leaving the house by 5:00am and not returning until after 6:00pm.

This is when the W met the OM and the A began.


I am trying to detach and go as dim as possible. However, for a majority of 2011, we didn't spend much time together at all. From January 2011 until June 2011, I think we had less than 10 days together. We talked daily, but were not together in the same state.

I think not spending time with her is more of the same from 2011. We disconnected. I think I need to rebuild that connection.

But it all comes back to the OM and Plan B.

I think my W wants the attention that I wasn't giving her. I think over the year, she felt I was gone and replaced me. She already knows what it feels like for me to be gone physically. She has done a year of just talking and she gets that now as we must communicate because of our Ds.

I want to do the right thing. Do I fight for her or hope she didn't get adjusted to me being away for all of 2011? She did the single parent thing for 2011 as when I did make it to FL, I only had one day off a week. I believe this year of doing it all by herself made her want to "escape".

Responses are appreciated. Please don't make me wait two days for a response.