Rollercoaster - Am I tall enough for this ride?

[ces67]

The book describes what it calls "demon dialogues" which basically means the common patterns of communication that actually restrict our ability to communicate. It gives examples of these negative patterns and then provides different ways to present out feelings in a way that is not confrontational but instead, displayes openness.

I used it this week when my W and I got into our heated argument. I was able to just say, "we're moving into our pattern of talking that doesn't help either of us and I don't want to do this again". Then I walked away and we were able to pick up the argument later on in a more calm setting.

The book does a much better job of describing how to do it. That's just an example of me at least recognizing the bad pattern and stopping it, which is the first step of the process.