It's an Opportunity for ME!

[zig]

brit, i think when cadet tells the newcomers that we have been given the gift of time, we think it's to work out what it takes to get our s back.

however, as "time" goes by, i've come to think that, as we work on ourselves and become a better version of ourselves, maybe that "gift" is how we come to understand how our s had some responsibility for the break up, too. and, maybe we deserve better?

this is really insightful , scared silly - and thanks for putting it in words so clearly.

i think cadet should add that explanation to his post tot he newcomer, so they understand right away. i think i took his words to mean the same as you wrote, but there was definitely the inclusion of getting h back as part of it


brit - what you describe - about your h saying yes and then "bit chin' later - i have to say i DON"T miss having that in my life AT ALL, now.

people like me - we say yes and mean it literally - people like our S's - it seems that they simply don't know what they like or don't like and so don't feel any confidence in making decisions one way or the other. then after they say yes, they are second guessing themselves in a way that is completely incomprehensible to us - and i think the complaining and negativity is the surface symptom.

just be glad you aren't on the receiving end of it right now.

hope you feel better about it

zig