Rollercoaster - Am I tall enough for this ride?

[zig]

hey ces - i like what you wrote in your post to roro

could you tell us what actions/steps helped you?

roro - just a thought, and i hope you don't mind me suggesting - but those conversations about ow that you describe, sound a bit confrontational to me while your h is almost using it as an opportunity to throw ow in your face and see how much you can be provoked.

i was advised recently to act as if i don't care about the ow at all - we are both showing we care too much about the ow - you through your open conversations with h where you ask direct questions , me by laying a boundary months ago that he was to keep his own secret and i wanted to hear nothing about it (even though it affects our parenting)

so interesting how i see us doing the same thing in very different ways.

i am looking for a 180 in my sitch - in doing something different. how about you? could you see if/where you could "do something different" with this particular thing?

zig