My Marriage

[MrD]

If separation is the only option left, how can this be done if I move out but it is viewed as her giving up?

[MrBond]

Just to clarify. She's blatantly seeing this guy? Is he M? What's his situation?

[Truegritter]

If separation is the only option left, how can this be done if I move out but it is viewed as her giving up?

By whom?

Who matters?

Your children?

What matters is you figure out what you believe in and take actions and make choices accordingly.

I didn't see where you answered my questions.

You don't have to of course but you will have to some day I think.

Why not today?

[MrD]

Just to clarify. She's blatantly seeing this guy? Is he M? What's his situation?

He's recently separated and a boyfriend from 25 years ago

[MrD]

Is it wrong to record a theropy session?

[MrBond]

So she knowingly goes over to this guy's house and you allow it? I would suggest you pack her things up when she's gone and tell her to move in with him.

I think it's worse to let your children know that their mom is seeing another guy and their father allows it. I understand that you don't want to make waves, but there comes a time when you have to start protecting your children from such lousy behavior.

[MrD]

She tells them she's running some errands.
The children don't know this yet, I think.

[MrD]

And she's gone for 5-6 hours. And I'm not a violent person.
I can't afford to move out and she's carring for her grandma and the boys while I work third shift.

[MrBond]

This has nothing to do with being violent. You are drawing a line in the sand. IMHO you want to stop this interaction now. I still say kicking her out is fine. If you keep letting her indulge in her fantasy, you're not going to have anything left.

[scaredsilly]

i agree with mr. bond. 5-6 hours with OM is really just short honeymoons. let her live with him and find out how he is 24/7. even better, let him find out how SHE is 24/7.