T~ You do remember correctly about the job.... and I think you hit the nail on the head. My counselor has said all along, from everything I have told him, he thinks H is depressed, and feeling like a failure..... and enter MLC. It's nice to get a male perspective too.

My friend and I speculate that he is hanging out with his brothers more and and at least the one male co-worker and said female co-worker because around them he can feel like the alfa male.

My counselor also said H probably feels like since he is a failure I deserve better so, in his analogy.... my C asked me if I had ever seen an old episode of Lassie where the kid is pushing the dog way so it doesn't follow him because the kid knows if the dog follows him he will get hurt. He said, "for lack of better words Heather you are that dog." Interesting analogy, but so true.

Who knows how or if H will be able to work himself through this, he's so far in denial, always saying, it's just a job I will never like any job, that's not it, I just need out of R, then everything will be better......Why do men define themselves by their work?

Also, I have read the lighthouse thing, but thank you for posting it, it's time I read it again, I really enjoy reading it, it renews me to keep going. smile

Not looking for more MLC mysteries, just very contemplative lately I suppose....

Well, on the up side I'm super busy for the next week. Going to a co-workers wedding, she's very hippie and I'm super excited, they are having it at their house and having a camp out there that night, everyone who attends is welcome to stay, how neat is that? (it's the little things in life that bring me joy). She was also nice enough to tell me to bring along a good friend of mine (she knows my sitch, so I thought it was very nice she's letting me bring someone she doesn't know to her wedding). Then, since my C told me I should volunteer somewhere, I will be helping out the church with VBS Sunday thru Friday nights from 6-8:30! Haven't figured out when I will fit the gym in this week, but I'll think of something!