Jack~ I can forgive, for sure, I know that, I've had to forgive a few other people for some difficult things to forgive. I agree, if someone keeps bringing something up, then they didn't forgive the person because clearly they are still bothered by it.
Maybe it's not even so much the forgiveness as the trust.... I don't know.... but again, I may not even have to think about that, but I like being optimistic.....