sure sounds like a lot of long term behaviors that reinforced other negatives and now it seems like the cycle is too big and on such a bad track that it cannot right itself.
that is a lie. You can turn this around. You can change. People DO change and I know this for a fact.
In a r made up of 2 people, when one person changes, the dynamic of the r and the r itself, the marriage itself
changes too.
Start with you b/c in the end, it's all you can do anyhow. Give this your best shot and leave the results up to God.
I don't know where you live but sometimes personal growth workshops that last over a weekend (like "Essential Experience" on the east coast) can be life changing. It's Not "est" or "Landmark" or a weird thing but had so much more to offer than therapy (but I like therapy!!) however unlike weekly T sessions
a workshop helps you process things all in a row without breaking up your insights or progress by having to go back to work or the kids.
I made as much progress in a long weekend of a workshop as I had in about 3 years of therapy. This was not all about or even primarily about my marriage but issues that did affect it. Anyhow
You focus your whole weekend (or up to 4 days) on where you are in your life and where you want to go. Not many people do this enough. It's "experiential" so you are not able to censor or rehearse your responses and you will learn a lot about YOU.
it was quite profound for me and later on my h went. THen about 22 of our friends including a few here on this board. Check out autumnleaves if you want b/c she went.
Anyhow, I think you need a JOLT to change the way you see things and how you interact...give that some thought.
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