What I found was that H had emptied the kids' accounts, and has taken substantial cash advances from my credit card account over the last few months.
I presume this is fraud/theft.
When I asked him about it he said he didn't know, but if I emailed him the details, he'd look into it. That was 2 nights ago and still no response.
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And what about the obvious evidence of his theft of money from my account, from our family trust, and from his children? How does he think this will look in court?
So very strange....
NLW,
I am sorry I haven't checked in with you in awhile. We've been busy getting ready for camps and other summer activities at our home.
I have been catching up on your sitch, and I am just appalled that in addition to taking money from you, your husband is also taking money from your kids' accounts. I am so very sorry.
If I were in your shoes, I'd set a hard and fast boundary regarding finances asap. He is threatening you with getting a court date to settle finances? I'd have told him, "THANK YOU." And then I would go about getting the court date myself, because I seriously doubt he's going to follow through.
I know you may feel like officially separating finances is another nail in the coffin, but remember...just because you have separated finances doesn't mean you won't get back together. All it means is that you are protecting yourself and your children for now.
If you do not trust your husband to make sound decisions regarding your personal money, your shared money and the kids' money, take that power away from him.
Stay strong, NLW! You're a smart and awesome woman and mom. I am confident you will make the right decisions for your family.
