Growing up we lived near a military family w/5 kids. The dad was a Colonel who had been a POW for 6 years.
He was handsome and charming and kind and fun. He had had an affair years before moving into the neighborhood. how do I know?
We all knew b/c his wife leaked it out and never let us or hiim forget it.
I wanted to ask him about his POW years but she'd change the topic. I assumed it was b/c she wanted to protect him but it became evident she did not want anyone to admire him.
Even his children...
she made the worst of all choices. She chose to stay married AND stay miserable.
Today, 30 years later, only ONE of her children is married. 4 of the 5 have divorced, 2 more than once. 4 are single and wish to remain so.
instead of teaching them about redemption or forgiveness or commitment she left them a terrible legacy that will probably affect THEIR kids too...
how many generations will be hurt b/c she would not forgive him?
Yes he was wrong to have the affair (we'll never know HIS side of it)
but no one knew of the affair til SHE told them....to me, the damage to their kids is at least as much her responsibility as it was his.
if she'd divorced him maybe one of them could have found happiness. At least the kids would not have seen the same choreographed below the surface battle going on for their whole lives...
But what if she had forgiven him and let it go? He wanted to make it work...she just could not let go of her pain/anger...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
