Me too. I just printed 25s post out myself. One of the things that I have been struggling with is the fact that my H says that he genuinely loves me very much but he just doesn't "feel" like being married. Not so he can go off and date but because he wants to live alone and write the great American novel (which he will never do anyway). Initially, I kept telling him that he shouldn't be such a slave to his feelings because I don't always feel like going to work or being a mom or whatever but I do it because it's part of life commitments that I've already made and they bring me a great life ultimately. But your post, 25, says it so much better. Being driven by feelings is often an excuse to be selfish. Shocked, you are getting great advice here. It was only when I completely detached and GAL'd that my H suddenly started saying maybe he had been confused about his feelings and was thinking about reconciling. Now we are dating and (always were) exclusive, but still living apart. We'll see where the next train stop on this journey takes us from here... Hang in there, but begin retreating strongly now so that she can miss you and start pursuing you eventually. smile