How are things this morning Ro? try to remember that right now she is like a gnat by your ear in a tent...a symptom of a bigger issue. Yes she is annoying and YES you want to squish her but you have to figure out where the gnats are coming into your tent from otherwise you will have just temporarily gotten rid of the problem
I have no doubt in my mind that you could get rid of her
but if you don't find the problem...how she got in and fix that...there will be another her
now is the where diamonds are made Ro...are you up for the pressure?
Things were fine this morning. I was basically HELL on wheels. He was asleep the whole time I was getting dressed (he slept on the couch last night GRRRR), but I'm sure he heard me slamming and bamming as my mother would say. I woke him up to kiss him goodbye, and he got a little taste of the snappiness. I SO did not want to do it, but I did. Consistency is important to me right now.
I like your gnat analogy, fig. Perfectly describes my sitch. He told me she "listened" to him. That's the only thing I've gotten out of him. I can say since I've been trying to do more active listening, he has been more open with me about stuff. We're definitely talking more than we were before the bomb drop. I'm sure the excitement and newness of it all had something to do with it too, so I've been trying not to nag him as much, and not be the same boring wife. (Thanks Coach Cheryl!) I've also been more upbeat (DBing really does work!) and just generally happy. Which in turn makes me nicer to him.
I really think the reasons behind his A have less to do with me, and more to do with him, but there's nothing I can do about it. I've owned my mistakes and I'm working on me. If he doesn't tell me the reasons, how do I find out where the opening is?
Some days I'm up for the pressure, fig. Other days, I'm asking myself why I'm doing this? It's obvious since he's still talking to her every day where his head is. I'm not sure I can do anything to turn it back to me at this piont.
