1702 - I have thought of a lot of things to say to you because I see ME in your situation. If you look at my early posts - I was YOU. I'll be brief.
The road to ANY type of recovery - albeit from a situation from your own making or the making of someone else - is with you. Once I LISTENED to what my wife said and what the folks on the boards had to say things changed.
Looking inward hurt like hell. Shining a light on the ways that I failed my w hurt like hell. But it had to be done because that is all I (YOU!) control. 25yearsmlc once said something to the effect of you should be HAPPY that you have done things wrong and have room to improve. If not - you are powerless. You have nothing you can do to make things better.
As we have heard, relationships are made of two people. If one of those people changes - the relationship changes. It's a law, not a theory. How are you going to change yourself to help change your relationship?
It's not too late - but you have to find yourself first. The answer is NOT in analyzing your wife. Believe me, brother, I spun my wheels in that mud bogg for months and all it did was make things much, much, MUCH worse.
