I have to say too, that my husband is a controlling person. He could also be verbally abusive and many times he got his way. Right now he is not paying certain bills and we are getting calls. He is worried about his job but that didn't keep him from taking half a day off to go work on the boat with his cousin.
His cousin owns the boat with him and I noticed that he is annoyed with him because he was supposed to figure out where they would dock it for the season. If that was me who was responsible he would be calling me irresponsible and putting me down left and right. With certain people in his life, however, he will not criticize for fear of harming that relationship. Maybe it's my fault for being fearful and not standing up for my self as much as I should. I have been disrespected for many years and told I had to earn his respect when I didn't really feel I did anything so bad (I got criticized for being late out the door and told I could never handle a real job and I was caring for my mom at the time)and I have had real jobs!
It is all so hard. I did the begging and pleading which didn't work and now I don't text much and he texts me occassionally but does not make attempts to talk when he walks in the door. I usually go and ask him how work was etc. We talk for a little while and thats it. I have 3 kids still at home D 21, D 20 and S 18. I believe my husband has checked out mentally and is looking for a way out without looking like the bad guy because of the affair. I feel stuck and confused but I am trying to GAL.
