Wife says it's to far gone

[25yearsmlc]

that sounds good shocked.

May I suggest another type of GAL as well as the great things you are already doing?

JOIN Something or take a class. Be around NEW people who do not remind you of and who know nothing about your marital situation. GO

Learn something new that you always wanted to learn or that helps your job market skills or that is purely for FUN. A new hobby? A class in cooking/mechanics, a new language...

I did all of those things and auditioned for local theater and even did stand up comedy. I went sky diving for my birthday and those dramatic actions were for ME

but they do make an impression and a statement about our own enjoyment of life.

We show that hey, we are FUN to be around and we are interesting and interestED in others and learning new things. I got in great shape, talked to a counselor and for awhile was on anti-depressants.

I joined a writer's group, took flying lessons to get my pilot's license, and this is when we lived in the interior of Alaska.

There is more that I did b/c I could not surrender to the "winter of discontent" and be miserable there.

But you get the point. I worked HARD to just feel alright. But then I felt better than alright. I began to like myself more and to know myself better and I CHANGED FOR THE BETTER....



when I truly detached from the outcome of what choice my h made

I comforted myself with the knowledge that "Hey I have become the best woman I can become, and I know this, so I will leave the results up to God."

Either way I knew I'd do more than "survive", I'd thrive.

You will too.