So I boxed up everything in the bedroom and placed it in the garage. I plan to make the room completely mine, some changes I have been meaning to make. I also don't mind the additional closet I just gained. See, a positive
The document will be sent to him today. He is trying to get more for this weekend prior to signing the agreement, I am holding him to it verbally. I want him to be around his kids, honestly. I just want him to do it in his own place.
Last night he waltzed in like he still lives here, and let himself into my bedroom to change his clothes prior to taking the kids to dinner. It is just the lack of respect and privacy.
We emailed some details this morning to keep everything in writing re: visitation, yardwork that he wants to do while he is here, etc.
I also advised that due to recent interactions we will not be having graduation celebrations together.
He just emailed to say that he agrees. He also said "we need to be careful how often we use the attorneys. It is very expensive and I am not sure why we can't do some of this on our own. What happened to becoming friends"
I replied "how often I use my attorney is my call, and I hope to not need her all of the time. However, my friends do not threaten me or make unfair demands on me. I will use her when I feel it is in my best interest to protect myself and the kids interests"
He just emailed to say that he agrees. He also said "we need to be careful how often we use the attorneys. It is very expensive and I am not sure why we can't do some of this on our own. What happened to becoming friends"
I replied "how often I use my attorney is my call, and I hope to not need her all of the time. However, my friends do not threaten me or make unfair demands on me. I will use her when I feel it is in my best interest to protect myself and the kids interests"
Woot!!! I got the 4 whistle award! Thanks Starsky! I am slowly getting there.
A friend pointed out that I have not given myself permission to be in charge, of me, my life, my kids lives. I have let him do it for so very long and I need to shift my thinking and quickly. So at times I may slip but I love this new found knowledge that I should have had all along
So to take a small page from Valeska, I have some very positive things coming from this that I am proud of.
-I have gotten so much closer with my bio family. I repaired a relationship that was long damaged with my father, which in turn brought me closer to one of my brothers.
-My boys and I laugh so very much. They had me in stitches just a few minutes ago and said "mom what would you do without us".
-I just signed up for a yoga class AND a zumba class with two of my girlfriends.
-For my birthday I was abundantly surrounded with love from all sides. I received 4 flower deliveries from girlfriends, a fruit basket, a wine basket and a ton of cards. I was seriously overwhelmed and really know that I am loved. I was told by them that you 'get back what you give' and that I have always been a wonderful friend to them and now its my turn to receive. WOW!!
And thank you to Val for starting that gratitude moment
Well overall the weekend went well. He was here with the boys for 24 hours as we agreed and I went to visit my mom. He kept texting me the entire time which I found odd. I ignored them. None of them really required a response from me.
My papers came from domestic relations today finally. I have to fill out my end and our court date is July 11th. At least it is something.
Tonight S18 is graduating so that is where my focus is today!! It is a good day So proud of him!!
Well-played, Autumn!!! 