Last Resort Technique - Can I correct problems?

[LostIn407]

Stubborn. Impatient. Yup. That's me.

I fell off the path the other day, but I am back on it. It isn't hard at all for me until W starts to contact me and tries to plan events with me.

Whenever she asks me to do something with her, I have to take a step back and think it over. I think I did good last week when I denied her request to stay for a bit at her apartment.

I am back to detach/dim. My schedule makes it very easy. She picks up the Ds from my house after I have already left for work on Tuesday and Thursday. She takes them to daycare on Wednesday and Friday. When she comes to get them on Saturday night, I will conveniently not be there. I can easily only have to see her one day a week, if that.

I think detaching works as every time I have done it, she comes to me. Problem is that I jump right back. I need to stay detached until OM is gone.

I appreciate the people here that have followed my sitch despite my stubbornness.

Whatever happens with my M, I know I will be a better person. During my M, I basically cut ties with all my friends. I would decline almost all requests to hang out with them unless it was a couples thing. I never did anything for myself because I felt bad spending money on myself instead of my family.

I am back to going out with people and enjoy it. Something that I think is healthy in a R. I am spending money on myself again and it feels good. I bought clothes for myself for the first time in years. I like to shop and it feels good to reward yourself with a new shirt every once and a while. I am back to dressing nice again. I think my wardrobe for the past few years has been t-shirts that I got free from events.


I still miss my wife, but I don't obsess over it anymore. I don't really think about what she is doing, nor do I care. The only time I care is when I think we are making progress, and looking back, I don't think that has been happening.

This is her Sunday with the Ds, so I think I am going to do some GAL I have been wanting to do but because of cost or lack of a baby-sitter, I never did. I am either going to kayak on the river or try stand up paddle boarding.

Thanks again for listening to my venting.