If my H hasn't hit rock bottom now, don't know how low it can get.
He finally gave me access to another of my bank account details (this makes 2 now, out of about 6 that are in my name). This was because it's the account that contains S13 and D16's own accounts and they wanted to get some money to buy clothes.
They had been begging him for their account details for the last 4 months and had started to argue with him about the constant "I'll find the numbers tomorrow" statements that they were getting from him.
What I found was that H had emptied the kids' accounts, and has taken substantial cash advances from my credit card account over the last few months.
I presume this is fraud/theft.
When I asked him about it he said he didn't know, but if I emailed him the details, he'd look into it. That was 2 nights ago and still no response.
In the meantime, D16 was performing numerous pieces in a school jazz concert held at a local night spot last night (including a solo).
She begged H to come and he said he would. Just beforehand, and as he dropped the kids off from school pick-up, he told me that he would not be sitting with me at the concert ( a 3-and-a-half-hour event).
I made the silly mistake of expressing my thought that this would make it very awkward for D16 - as all of her school friends and their parents whom we have known for the last 13 yrs would be in the room, seated at tables having dinner and watching the show.
For H and I to be there and not to sit together would stand out like a sore thumb.
I stupidly tried to point out that we weren't arguing, that we were getting on well together, and that we had just been sitting, as we did every evening on the couch, talking happily about a number of things, and would he please consider if he could just sit with D16 and I for the concert for her sake.
He went ballistic and blurted out that, in the next day or two, I'd be receiving a copy of his application for a court hearing date to finalise a financial settlement between us. Then he left.
He came to the concert and I saw him lurking in a dark corner by the bar speaking to no-one, looking anguished, and texting repeatedly on his phone. He left after about 30 mins and missed D16's solo and subsequent performances.
Weird thing is that I can't for the life of me work out how he thinks we can have a court hearing to determine splitting finances given that he's refused to give me ANY details of our financial arrangements.
He seems to think he can just apply to be given 50% of everything I own, claim that his businesses are worth virtually nothing, forget about the massive debts he has incurred and that I am now liable for, and that the judge will just award him what he is asking for.
And what about the obvious evidence of his theft of money from my account, from our family trust, and from his children? How does he think this will look in court?
