Thank you for admitting you are a workaholic. Admit that, own it, and work on it. I was, as well. I know what that's like.
Perhaps you are working on that and I must stress again...
Schedule GAL and time with son as strictly and with as much importance as you would with work.
I understand that work may put roof over head and food on plate...
But without a centred and strong mind and soul, your loss of self and s might be worse than a lost contract or billable hours.
Bug mentioned something really important which is, KNOW WHAT ZIG WANTS.
As far as flexible schedule, and as bad as the fixed schedule might seem, you may still be too early in that game to try to have even basic flexibility.
My W, without the SA, gave me very little time with kids last year. She "thought" she was. She's since realized she didn't. So with that admittance AND the SA, she STILL wants flexibility... and it appears to happen only when it is convenient for her.
You may want S to have some control over where he is, and that can happen... with time... but for now, like all boundaries with children, let them get used to the routine / boundaries... THEN introduce limited flexibility...
No matter what, check your motivations on flexibility...
Consider... your H might like flexibility because it makes child care convenient for him... and you're catering to that... double bind...
My W asks me for flexibility and I give... and then when I ask for flexibility it's like pulling teeth... not that I do... I cherish the time I DO have with my kids... I schedule everything else AROUND my time with my kids...
'nuff said from me, again...
like bug said...
decide what Zig wants...
because this is about Zig... no one else... just be the best mom you can be, under the circumstances that you find yourself. Everything else will fall into place.
