Hang in there, take a deep breath, and try to be calm. None of this needs to be decided today. The DB books say detach and get a life and stop pursuing/chasing her. Make her worry that you've moved on without her but be pleasant when you interact. She really must be in a bad way to be basically leaving her daughter. But don't feel bad about the texting and pleading, we've all done something very similar here. It gets better day by day. Just have no expectations and your mood swings about the sitch won't be so bad. Also, get a DB coach right away if you can. Mine has been great. Take care.
