I found out for sure that H is still talking to OW every day.
The other day I said something to him about her posting to my SS' FB page. Frankly, I'm about tired of the FB foolishness. He didn't respond that night. Today I noticed she liked something on SS' page, but didn't comment for once. So I asked him if he said something to her. He says yes, he told her not to do it. I asked him why did he do that? He just looks at me. I say so you talked to her? He says yes.
I ask: So you still talk to her every single day? He says yes. I ask again repeating every single day. He says: Yes I talk to her every day. I just say Wow. Then I asked him how long did he think we were going to do this? He just looks at me and put his dinner plate down (he was eating on the couch) like he was expecting us to begin a long conversation. Then pulled out his phone. Just said Wow again and that I didn't mean to interrupt his dinner and left the room.
He's now sitting across from me in the living room asleep - his defense mechanism whenever things get tight for him. I got a little teary eyed, but pulled it together. I mean, I suspected this, so its just confirmation. Yes there was some hope that he was coming back towards me, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Now I think I know what my next step is going to be, but I'm interested in what Cheryl says.
Can't remember if I posted this before, but he had told me in a previous conversation that he didn't tell her "I love you" anymore. I told him I didn't believe him and he said I know, but its true. But he's still talking to her alot. Guess there is a new pattern to take the place of the old one. As far as I know he hasn't seen her since February, but clearly that doesn't mean anything. He's doing an awful lot for me and with me to still be leaving. We have more of a M now than we did before the bomb. It just doesn't make sense to me. But he's a WAS, so I guess it goes with the territory.
I know this changes nothing about DB efforts. I still need to work on me and I plan on doing that. But do I at least get to hit him over the head with my pillow? LOL
