Please, advice & feedback on saving my marriage

[UKVA]

Correct, moving forward sounds better and is closer to what I feel. We were married 18 years ago, not something I am going to throw away without trying everything. I am though going to move to another phase, I just hope she is with me.

Getting inside my W's head right now is tough. She presents a very hard exterior to me, not her way at all. My sense is she is being coached by what I have heard referred to as "the sisterhood of the WAWs", a group of divorced (many multiple times) women who while interested in the drama are not emotionally invested in our situation. No doubt she is conflicted, one of her greatest qualities is trying to always do the right thing, but here she is not sure what is right. My sense is that she wants to act with me as if the D is a foregone conclusion to ensure I don't "get the wrong idea", but that she is far from sure. Early in our MC she said it would be possible to stay together for the kids and the lifestyle, but I don't think she sees it that way any more. Nor do I.

My theory is that she is in MLC, but I will get reading and find out more. The tipping point was a combination of FB and a 30th high school reunion last August, although she would say, and I would agree, things were not great beforehand. But I read so often of that mix being the catalyst for MLC. I do want to learn more about the phases, process, and outcomes.

Your advice about separating the marriage from the protection is very sound. I will make that my next step. If your are in my general area, and this board allows it, do you have any recommendations for a L? And I did not mean to say things would work out fine without a plan, just that I do not fear the future.

I actually ran into my W's best friend earlier on this evening. She gave me a big hug and told me how much she missed me. Nice. Told her she could call me anytime, but I know how that could be difficult.