"One thing that I had to work on is to not always wanting to verify where she was or what she was doing."
Hold up. I think you were extremely justified to do this. Especially with the amount of inappropriate texting and messages going on. That's where you shouldn't have given in. She has to step up to the plate and owned her sh@t and then gone through steps to show that her actions are transparent.
Were things like that ever discussed?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.