BeingMe, No matter what happens, I do hope that everything works out for you. However, I don't think there is ever a perfect situation where you can leave and not be unhappy about it. I could be wrong on that, but you and your h have been together a long time and have beautiful children that you both share your love with and there were some great times that you shared w/each other early on. It's difficult and yes, you will be unhappy because it's a situation that could have been worked on and possibly corrected w/medical and professional assistance, but your h wouldn't go. He's got some serious life's lessons to learn.
In his own way, he's curious as to what you are doing on the weekends and deep down, he's afraid that you've already found someone new. His mind is in over drive when it comes to that sort of thing.
As for dying his goatee, a lot of men do this and not just the mlcers. I know a man who did not only his goatee, but he eyebrows too. He said he didn't like to see them a different color from the hair on top of his head.
I am happy to read that you are more relaxed and are not worrying about the future. I think your relaxed attitude has your h worried...lol!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
