First and foremost, I have to tell you to be very careful with an mlcer in divorce proceedings. They can become someone you do not know.
Do what is best for you and your children. Protect all of you.
I am not sure what he thinks will be accomplished in that 4 way meeting. It is often a chance for the person and his lawyer to see where you are at. A chance to find out what they are dealing with.
As far as the AA meeting. Not a good idea in my opinions. Here's why. The person with the problem has to want help otherwise it doesnt work. Secondly, one thing has nothing to do with the other. Ans as Snodderly said, you need to keep the divorce part a business deal.
And your h will see this as pressure. He will think you are trying to control him.
I get what you are trying to do. I do. But, that is his path to walk.
