Earlier this week when I was at work (I am a teacher...the kids finished school the week before and we had a couple of teacher days before our year finished) and H called ( from a UK number... So I guess I know now where he is-- where he had his back surgery and where OW now too!)
I answered he said hi how are you, I said fine thanks and you? Blah balh..then asked to speak with the kids. I said H I am at work and they are at home, I asked you before to text when you can speak to them so I can make sure they are available since they are on summer holidays now and out and about all the time.
He said yes I know and I texted you yesterday but you didn't reply.
I said no H actually I never received your text ( this part of the world..text messages sometimes get lost in space).
He said oh, ok ( I guess he thought was ignoring him), and asked if they would be home that night.
I said actually no, am not being trying to be a b*# buster but they are both spending the night out at our good friend's house.
He said ok of course it's their summer holiday I know they are busy having fun, no problem.
Ok, i said, well I have to get back to work, bye.
When I got home, all the plans changed ( the sleepover of 5 kids was now at my house! Argh) so after much contemplation I decided to text him and say, plans changed kids will be home after all if you are available to speak with the, i know they would love to.
He called almost immediately. My D didn't want to talk (!) and my S took the phone but the line cut! So H called back and by then my S was playing again with his friends so didn't want to talk.
So I said to H since I have you on the phone a couple of questions about the house. He then said all summer plans confirmed. I said thank you , really appreciate it. You didn't need to do that, etc. He said its no problem, my pleasure you are welcome.
I then said I have to go was in the middle of doing something when he called.
It felt good to be 'in control' of the conversation. I by no means think it means ANYTHING in terms of our R but it felt good to ME. I was different and I liked it.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
