WHG: And so we file...

[workinghardguy]

For the summer the whole being at her house should be a moot point now. I've told her that she can pick the kids up here after work since staying up late in the summer isn't a big deal. Or, like last night, they can stay over here.

In the mornings she's agreed to have S at her house until the sitter gets there. That way I can get to work earlier. I've told S that he will have to let himself into mom's house. I'll drop him and off and give him a kiss just like we do for school.

The dad avenue is closed to me of that I'm sure.

The crazy-ass schedule they have now was actually approved by the judge, much to my W's dismay.

The area of operation that I have to maneuver in is pretty well defined at this point. So I just have to choose what maneuvers I want to do.

So anyway... here's an update... W stopped by this morning, at my request. The children had bought birthday gifts for her last week at a rummage sale and wanted to give them to her. We were going to go after that to file.

So she comes in and tells me that we can do this another day. She still has questions about the paperwork and isn't sure what's up exactly so we might as well just wait to file.

I guess I should've seen this coming... but I didn't so I wasn't prepared for that route. Then she left. No gift for her from me. Just a plant of hers that she left behind. It's far healthier now than when she lived here, but it used to be in my bedroom and I just didn't want it around here anymore. I suppose I could've just thrown it away. Ah well.

Part of me wishes we had just gone and done it. Rather than forestalling it yet again. Then again I can pull the trigger whenever. I'll have to meditate on that...