If I had been asked that question 3 months ago I would have wanted reconciliation with my W. Maybe 3 weeks ago I would have wanted to be detached enough so she would notice and react. Today I want to be detached so I can move on and let what will happen just happen. Detached to me now is a state of mind, no more thinking "I can't believe she will go through with this" and more thinking "what can I do to further grow and work on my stuff". If I can truly detach emotionally and mentally I can build from there, and my actions will reflect my state of mind. It will make my interactions with my W much easier. It will make falling in love again possible. I don't know who with, maybe my W, maybe someone else.
For the kids, I just want them to be as happy as they can be given the circumstances. They need to see their Mom and their Dad. When I let go of my need for structure and planning things are a whole lot simpler, and things will work out fine.
M 53, W 48 T 25, M 18 S 15, D 11 "I'me done!" 6/13/2010 Exit started 8/21/2011 ILYBNILWY W consults with L 9/2011, no papers filed Separated 1/16/2012
