"As soon as I completely detach, she is going to move on and put "us" out of her mind like it never happened. I do not see a chance that she would even consider coming back because, in her mind, it is her being weak. This is her way and there is nothing that can be done to sway her decision. She resents the fact that legally, we are married now."
If you truly believe this, then your marriage is over, bacause if pursuit doesn't work and detachment doesn't work, what does that leave? Are you going to hang on trying to figure her out for the rest of your life, long after she's moved on, and perhaps even re-married?
Why don't you accept the very real possibility that you're going to have to grow old with someone else? Then perhaps you'll quit seeking logical answers to emotional questions, and start doing what actually might work.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
