hey verb - i don't know how to post to you without a reply thingie , until you post - hope fully you'll see my new thread
as for going overboard - that was before i found this site and read the books. i had been on another site that advised to just act as if you were fine with it.
sort of the equivalent of - if they want to divorce you , help them by contacting your lawyer. if they want you to leave, help them pack.
did i get it wrong?
i'm not feeling all panicky at the thought of getting it all wrong.
but if anyone has thoughts on how EXACTLY to act about the ow - the counterintuitive DB stuff, then i sure could use some advice before this conversation takes place.
how i feel is, i would be very cautious until i knew that it was over from the horse's mouth. what i've worked through for a large part is the sense of hurt and betrayal and being let down. what i've understood is that h is human and has his flaws just like the rest of us and that i could forgive it.
what i don't know is that if we ever have to bring her up, in the near future, what i should "act as if"
