i'm not 100% confident i can carry it off, but i have become quite the actress through all of this.
Fake it 'til you make it!
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i have told him many many times when he used to test me about how i felt - that i am happy for him that he has found what he needs and that he's so happy. (he always insists how happy he is - and he looks so goddamn miserable when he says it!!)he's always looked terribly pained when i've said that. in dec when he told me he was going for 12 days, i actually said with a smile on my face - that's great - you guys get to spend time together - it must be really hard for you being so far apart.
was that overboard - i actually really meant it - and was sincere - heck - if he's gong to do it - he might as well enjoy it instead of being so f'ing agonized over it!!
Well, personally, this sounds a little overboard You do sound like you're giving your approval here. It's kind of the the complete opposite of a boundary, in a way. I'm not really sure what the appropriate response would be to that, though!
As for why your H would "prefer" to tell you what's going on - who knows?? It doesn't seem like it's worth the energy to ponder it too much.
And thanks for the note about the name - I'll never tell but what a coincidence it's your mom's name!
You do sound like you're giving your approval here. It's kind of the the complete opposite of a boundary, in a way. I'm not really sure what the appropriate response would be to that, though!