I'm new. Husband in MLC and had affair.

[BklynMom]

Anything you do or say he will use against you. He needs to justify his A and his feelings for the other woman so he needs to paint you as a monster. i.e you didnt even think about where your precise H would be sleeping up north so he had no choice but to drive home 2 hours at night. Its called gaslighting.

You need to figure out a way to be as busy and into your own stuff as possible. Fake it till you make it. Go to the gym for hours just to get out even if you only work out for 15 minutes. He is pushing to get you to react - dont react.

Spend money on yourself to look and feel good.

Figure out what your part was in the demise of your R, but know in the end it has very little to do with you. None the less you need to focus on yourself and be the ultimate Rachael you can be. Focus on your hobbies. Keep posting.

Good Luck