Pretty much every day lately I have had a positive post bomb thought. I guess that's what I'd call it. Like when I go to the mall and don't feel the need to hide my purchases coming in the house. Or when my married friend tells me she can't wait for me to start dating so she can live vicariously through me and I think- oh yeah, I get to have those falling in love feelings again. Or when I do something new that I was too stuck in a rut to try before. I never could have made it to this positive place without GAL and detaching. I'm not and will never be someone's back up plan. Thanks everyone for the support!
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
I think your post is magnificent and I feel the same way a lot of days..until those stinking sad days come when I question everything!!!
Keep up the great work!
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
Maggie I am so happy to see you positive and happy. You're giving me motivation! I also like thinking...I don't have his mess everywhere. I don't have to share the bathroom, listen to him snore, or deal with his dirty work clothes!
One of my resentments towards H was that on our wedding day he never told me I looked beautiful or said anything special to me. I sent him a beautiful note about how excited I was to start our life together (and also got him a really nice golf bag). I thought of that today on my drive to work. My next man will be someone who would NEVER forget to tell me I look beautiful on such a special day.
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
H was here today without me knowing. I thought it was weird that our mailbox was open. Then I could tell the grass had been cut. I think he was in the house but cannot prove it, but I am pretty sure a book I left out on financial things and divorce was moved. I am not okay with this.
I am waiting to send him an email with boundaries until I cool down. Sunday is his birthday, and he is participating in his first triathalon (we have nothing in common, HA!) and I was going to text him good luck and happy birthday but now I am def not.
Me-32 H-31 M-1yr, 9mos/T-6.5yrs No kids, 3 pets H estranged father passes away- 8/11 Bomb- 1/15/12 Began LRT- 4/1/12
