Last Resort Technique - Can I correct problems?

[LostIn407]

Keep hammering me until I get it, because I am still not grasping it.

The 180 is doing things with the W.

However, I know how stupid it is to do things with the W while the OM is still around. I know how I am too good to be a Plan B.

However...
OM doesn't work M, Tu, W
W doesn't see OM on Tu, Th, Sa and every other Su because she has our Ds.
So the W can only spend time with OM on M, W and F.
So if she is making plans with me in advance on a M, W or F, I don't see how I am the Plan B.

Honestly, if she is making plans in advance to do something with me, she is choosing to do it. I am too busy on Tu, Th and Sa to make plans with the W. So if she wants to do something with me, she has to do it on one of "her" nights.

UKVA, if you asked me out and I said I was busy, you would probably ask me to do something again in the future. If you asked me out again and I again said I was busy, would you ask me out again? No. You would say F it and stop asking and just go out with the other person.

Example 1:
My D is being bad all day. She asks me for candy. I just say no. The next day, she is being bad again and asks me for candy. I just say no.

Example 2:
My D is being bad. She asks me for candy. I tell her no, she has been bad. The next day, she is being bad again and asks for me candy. I tell her no, she has been bad.

Which example is going to get my D to understand she can't be bad and get candy?

This brings me back to reaffirming the boundaries. Everyone said no R talk, but how the heck is W to know I don't want to do anything because of the OM if I don't tell her? I already screwed up "dating" my W before. Explain it to me like I am a child.

I don't think I am being stubborn here. I honestly don't understand how it is going to work.