This might be last chance??

[MrBond]

Here's the 2x4.

"But no one knows my W like I do."

Really? So you knew she was going to D you?

"My problem is I CANNOT get over the why!"

Wait, I thought you said no one knows her like you do.

"But in my W's case, it will only solidify her stance with our sitch."

Really? You don't know because you haven't really tried the other way. You're just afraid to.

"One of our biggest problems was we were both stubborn."

What do you mean "were"? You do know that if it was a turn-off for her before, it is definitely 200% moreso now.

You know there's a reason why MWD says in her book that DBing isn't going to seem natural. Because it goes against instinct, BUT it works.

I think everyone here can predict what your W is going to feel and do better than you because you refuse to budge and look at things objectively. The ones that succeed are the ones that let go.

Heck your W is the twin sister of our spouses. She said the same things, same legal threats, etc.

I guess my question is, why do you post here? Do you come for answers? It seems like you're just looking for people to agree with your POV. Everyone is telling you what you don't want to hear. Even the ones who's marriages have been saved. But you think you're the exception. Let me tell you something. NO ONE is the exception.

And you complain because you've been "suffering" for 3 months. It took 2 years before my W even talked to me and we have 2 natural kids together.

The day you STOP saying how different your sitch is, is the day that your M will actually get better.