I am trying to figure this web thing out. I only just found these answers. I was typing so fast that I said it bugged my husband that I was taking care of my mom. Not true. I took care of her until she died in march and told my husband I was not going to work this summer. That is what is bugging him. He makes enough money to pay the bills but he has been neglecting some medical bills and others. Starting to get collection calls.
He claims he had the affair with a woman at work because I threatened divorce 3 times in our marriage. I threatened because I was treated very disrespectfully by him It has been a problem throughout our marriage. This past weekend when we were up north he wanted to sleep in a certain bed and my neice was using it so I told him he could sleep in a double bed downstairs or with me in a double bed. Well that was too crowded to sleep with me so he said he was going to drive home (2 hours) because I didn't make sleeping arrangments. He told me I could sleep downstairs but I didnt want to because my mom used to sleep there and I am not ready to go there. So he went downstairs and finally decided to sleep down there. Thats the kind of thing I usually have to deal with - very self centered.
I have been suffering from depression and he does not want anything do with me physically even though I asked for a hug here and there. Will not and no sex. He has admitted he is doing too much but he won't quit. Now he hangs out at the bar with 2 friends once or twice a week along with all his other interests. Spends very little time with me and still sleeps in my bed. We were goin to a therapist once together and then separate but she just listens and gives no homework. We were supposed to meet with her together for a second time and my husband has not called to make an appt. I have tried distancing my self and I don't tell him I love him or beg anymore. He is talking to me some but won't seek me out when he comes home and Im in a different room.
I know I need to GAL and have done some things like lose weight and work out. Any advice is appreciated.
