"On my side, I know there is great advice on here and people are only looking to help. But no one knows my W like I do."
"My problem is I CANNOT get over the why! Why would she wait for 2 1/2 years for this to come out if she felt this way in the beginning?"
OBVIOUSLY, YOU ONLY THINK YOU KNOW HER.
"I know what has gone on hasn't worked,..."
"One of our biggest problems was we were both stubborn. As you can see from my posts, I am stubborn. Very stubborn..."
LUKE, LET GO, USE THE FORCE.
The point is we (none of us) KNOW the person our WAS's have become. They have been abducted by aliens, had their memories corrupted and replaced, metaphorically speaking.
The DB techniques are counter intuitive, designed to break the cycle, to seperate reality from fantasy for many a WAS, A kind of here's what you want, so here's what it's going to look like, in a mature, gentle way. The DB techniques also encourage personal changee to offer a new reality, better, stronger, healthier a kind of, here's how it could be. Takes time, but you have to start somewhere.
First, you have to stabilize yourself before you can have enough patience and independence to figure out how to proceed. That means detach.
You just sound so fixated on your assessment of your situation, and that's going make things more difficult for you. That's why the "sighs".
Let me repeat: you might think you know her, but you don't, not the present version anyway.
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Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
