Last Resort Technique - Can I correct problems?

[LostIn407]

Before all this crap happened, I would always put my young Ds to bed if I was home at night (this was when I worked crappy hours and not the dream job I have now with nights and weekends off). My W knows I like to put them down. She also knows how difficult it can be sometimes for me. When my W puts them down, they go out quick. When I put them down, they want to stay awake as long as possible. The 180 would be me having D13 put them down as W knows I don't like this. I could workout at night when I have the Ds, but I don't like having D13 put them down. I don't think it is fair to D13 to have to do it as she has her own things she wants to do. Also, I don't agree with D13's methods sometimes.

So if W says to have D13 put them down so we can go do something, I am stuck. First, she knows it is possible. Second, one of her reasons for the separation/OM was that I never wanted to do anything as I didn't want to leave the young Ds with D13.

So how exactly am I becoming someone only a fool would leave when I continue to do the things that made the fool leave in the first place?

Someone please answer that because that is what I am struggling with the most. We never did anything together so my plan is to work extra hard on not doing anything with her to make her come back?

Gets more confusing the more I think about it.