forgot to mention, that last night while mil and i were "sorting" things out, she told me that when h informed them that ow was going to be here and not to stop by , she asked him whether he had told me. his reply was 'no, zig has asked me not to tell her what's going on and i am going to respect that even though i would prefer to.
okay question - apart from the situation regarding s and keeping him out of it, which h is making clear HE wants to do also, WHY DO I NEED TO KNOW? from his point of view?
is it just the practicalities, or is there possibly something in the WAS's mind where they have some need for their spouse to know what they are doing?
i've puzzled over this for months. is it my own resistance to wanting to know that is more telling, or his need to need me to know that is more telling here?
ugh!
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
