Last Resort Technique - Can I correct problems?

[LostIn407]

I am off the ledge right now. I have returned to a state of calm. Thanks.

On the days W has the Ds, I am super busy and do have plans. I love my Ds to death, but I have neglected me since D4 was born. I fill my days with things I have been missing and I enjoy it. I used to play in three soccer leagues a week. I am signing up again. I have always wanted to learn jui jitsu and will be signing up for classes.

My W knows that I am not busy after 9pm when I have the Ds. She knows D13 is capable of getting her sisters to bed and we have asked her to do this many times in the past. So I can't tell her I am busy on those nights.

In May, I told W that I was not going to "date" my W while she continued to see OM. Our contact dropped to near zero. Horrible to deal with at first, but became easy. If I did think about W and the OM, I was able to quickly brush it off. Detached. Went dark/dim. Was doing fine.

Problem started Memorial Day when I said she could join us at the beach. Last week we actually saw each other a lot with family things and that 20 minutes drinking a beer.

All of that made me lose momentum. I feel like I am back at square one.

Best step is to go back to where I was in May.


Thinking more about the movie, I did say at the beach she could ask me to a movie. How can I close that door I opened? Chatterbug did say "A movie is not going to sway the relationship one way or the other." So I guess if she continues to ask me to a movie, I just play it as going to a movie with a friend and not think anything more of it.