Please, advice & feedback on saving my marriage

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That I took her for granted. I treated her like the hired help. I did not respect her and treated her and her friends as if they were inferior. And probably that it took her to almost have a nervous breakdown (her words) for me to realise what I had. Some of this is true, but it takes two people to screw up a relationship.

I read the 5 Love Languages recently and realised that we were both words of affirmation first and she was physical touch second. I was acts of service second. If we had known those and acted upon them we would not be here. But too late for those regrets, maybe. We have until January next year before we can file, so the gift of time needs to be used wisely.