Sadly Returning

[mishka422]

Hoping, I know how hard this is and how finding out about an affair after they claim they just don't love you anymore is. Been there buddy.

She is acting according to script right now. What you just said above is 100% exactly what I heard from my xh.

One thing I will say, DO NOT KEEP TEXTING HER, TALKING TO HER, ASKING QUESTIONS! This will only keep pushing her and validating her reasons why you aren't the person she wants anymore. JUST STOP NOW! It is going to take extreme willpower. If you can, turn off your phone. Just turn it off!

Trust me, whatever answers you are seeking are not going to help you. It won't change the facts and frankly, she may not even have answers. It's about feelings and emotion. She's not operating on rational thought right now.

There is no easy road through this, but the more you step back the better for your own sanity and for your R with her.

I know you are going to see my sig line and see that my xh and I are back together. I would take that with a massive grain of salt and some tequila! We are together, things are good but not defined and I still have a lot of residual pain and flashbacks. Don't look at other's situations and see hope for the R because EVERY one is different.

Look at other's situations though and see hope for YOURSELF! There is healing, there is adjustment, there is a life moving forward.

Hugs to you. I hope you are able to step back and reacess what you are doing so you can move forward.