"Right now I suspect her anger is at me detaching, because I have tried really hard to go as dark as one can when kids are involved."
Mindreading.
"She is angry that I would not agree to her having the kids all week and me just having weekends during the summer, and saw my suggestion of the opposite as a refusal to compromise."
That's to be expected.
But deep down inside, what was she mad about you before that she's still mad at?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.