The course you are on now is just building resentment and anger in you.
You know you are mentally stable at this time to lead as you are full on in reaction mode.
It is very understandable. Each encounter puts you on pins and needles and has you second guessing yourself.
Eventually the anger will win over and you will be as disrespectful to your wife as she is constantly being with you.
This is what you need to nip in the bud.
But to do this takes inner strength.
And it takes time.
And it take patience with yourself.
The best way to do this is to start limiting contact with your wife. Let her live her life and you start to heal and get stronger.
Never ignore. But take time to reply. And then keep it simple and to the point, a little mystery with honesty.
This movie moment.
Make it a non moment.
Think of it as it truly is in the grand scheme of things.
A movie is not going to sway the relationship one way or the other.
So treat it as such.
If you are comfortable and display a honest I am good no matter what happens attitude then rely back that you have a full schedule and cannot make the movie.
If you are uncomfortable and an emotional wreck then rely back that you have a full schedule and cannot make the movie.
Then sit back watch and record what happens.
Do not engage.
Use your anger for yourself only. When you have doubts. Use it to be a source of strength within until you can let it go.
Anything that looks needy. Cut it out.
Those 37 rules of Sandi really help when you apply them to yourself and all your interactions with everyone around you.
And when you fall down and mess up. Do not beat yourself up. Stand up. Say I messed up. Now I will correct that and grow. I will become a better man. One I am proud of and my girls will be proud of.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
