MWG, I have to give you credit, you went way above and beyond to make this work, often times against the advice of me and others on the board. I agree with your friend, I do expect your H to make a play to keep things as they are. I don't think he will fully commit to you for whatever reason, but I do think he likes the buffer he has with you. I do hope you decide to move on and not come off this position, you deserve it. MWG, you have spent many years in misery over this, you deserve some happiness and you will not have it living the way you have the last 6 years or so. Best of luck to you!!!