IB, You have had a busy time in the last month on so and I'm glad everything went off w/o a hitch this weekend. I'm sure everyone had a wonderful time and enjoyed themselves.
As for your xh "acting" as if everything is okay w/family members, they have this uncanny way of compartmentalizing things and they can be friendly w/one group of people and not the other. Things that they don't want to face or deal w/are put in another box in their brains. Do not ever think this man didn't love you. If your marriage wasn't meant to be, it would have ended in the early years. The man has rewritten history and will continue to do so for a very long time.
As for the comment wanting their mother back...the children are very much aware of what has transpired and know who you were prior to the mlc monster moving in and they are hoping that you will be that person again some day soon. Unfortunately, you will never be that woman again. You will be a wiser woman who will guard her heart and still smile and have fun. It all takes time. I do want to ask this...do you suppose that the person who said this to you is actually the one that wants the odl you back?
I agree w/the others, you need a virtual hug for doing a wonderful job and maintaining your sanity while doing it. Please do not ever doubt yourself...you are not the one that is lost in lala land.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
