She agreed to meet for Lunch -- NOW WHAT?

[DBinSF]

Ok, so my WAW (ex-fiancee, technically) has agreed to meet me for lunch on Wednesday. This will be only the second time we have purposefully met up in over a year. The last time was in April, again for lunch, but that time at her request.

My instinct is to go in there like a bull in a China shop, tell her it's now or never, tell her that her little emails and texts every two/three weeks or so only aggravate the wound and prevent me from moving on. And if she meant what she said in April that she wishes we had worked it out, then we should speak more seriously about it.

I really do want another chance, but she has denied me every time I've brought it up. I have been GALing like nobody's business, but she hasn't let on that she's noticed. At least she hasn't said anything to that effect. She's still with the OM, a guy she's repeatedly told me she has no passion for. If she won't have me, I'd love to move on, but I'm kinda stuck in limbo...

So, what is my game plan? Play it cool? Ask her about her life? Laugh and be light?

Or lay the law down and let her know that her little emails without any real intention to reconcile are driving me batty?

Any guidance or a little Pep talk would be much obliged.

- DBing in SF