Don't run into one another in those venues, but do obviously for school events etc. and mostly things very cordial. Groceries at both places purchased on our joint visa card which I manage, we both have our own cc and bank accounts. Bills paid out of joint checking account which again, I manage.

Your advice is sound and pretty much what my DB coach said. I have tried this, but W lost her temper and we parted without resolution. However, I ask myself, is this tactic going to bring me closer to her or push me farther away? Will it help me achieve my short and long term goals?


M 53, W 48
T 25, M 18
S 15, D 11
"I'me done!" 6/13/2010
Exit started 8/21/2011 ILYBNILWY
W consults with L 9/2011, no papers filed
Separated 1/16/2012