Please, advice & feedback on saving my marriage

[UKVA]

So now I need you guys to heed the title of my string and give some advice. Met with W and kids therapist this afternoon. Not a good result. Even though in a previous meeting the therapist said the current arrangement was not workable for the summer, now with my W there she changes her tune. So it seems I am faced with two options, compromise and make the best of the situation or push back and risk her running to family court. I have spoken to two friends this evening and got conflicting advice. What I guess from a DB perspective I should be asking myself is what looks like a 180 for me in my W's eyes? Also which tactic is going to forestall the talk of D? My DB coach suggested I ask my W to move out since she wants the separation, but I am not sure that is really the best thing for my kids. I can see how not having mom there at bed time ever over the summer might be tough, especially for my daughter.

So what do I do? My gut tells me that sticking to my guns here will result in damage that may be irrepairable even in the long term, but so often I have made errors in DB tactics. So if you are reading this please chime in and let me know your thoughts.

Thanks.