Any chance to make it work? I need advice

[sweetbabyred]

Yes, I know I needed to detach, but I kept trying to convince myself that my sitch was different. Reading this book has made me realize that it's not. So now I just need to follow through!

Interesting thing happened today. I knew that H was hanging out at the pool of one of his friends. He met these two women last summer right after their husbands had left them. Even though they both have kids, they were through with their divorces by mid-summer.

I've met them both and they're nice enough. I'm actually FB friends with one and saw that the other had tagged a pic of the three of them at the pool. The tag line said "my best single friends".

a At first, I was annoyed, because H has not even filed, so he's definitely not single, but it wasn't his post and I can't do anything about it, so I decided not to give it another thought.

I thought his sis and mom might be annoyed by it, but I'm detaching and it's just a stupid pic, so I'm not going to think about it too much.

Anyway, a few minutes ago, I got a call from H. Mind you, we pretty much communicate only by text unless it's an urgent issue about a house showing, etc. so I thought it must be important.

He called because he thought I'd probably seen the pic of him and his friends and he wanted me to know that he had no idea what she'd written until he saw it posted. I totally acted calm and collected and said that I saw it, but it wasn't a big deal.

Then we talked for a few minutes about his friends teenage daughters and how he's really trying to figure out if he could handle having a daughter. I just listened and didn't say much.

He's pretty much called me his ex since last summer, except not around family, and has been dating, so I can't figure out why he'd be concerned that I'd be upset over a caption. Oh well, I'm not a mind reader and even though I thought I really knew him, I know I'll never figure him completely out. And that's probably a good thing.

He showed concern for my feelings and spent hours at the pool without drinking any beer, so I'm going to just look at the positive.